Dear Friend,

I appreciate so much that you shared this, because somehow, my footprint’s lock got put on, something which I never do, because I want to see what different people are writing about, styles of writing, and to know that, maybe, across this universe, that someone is going to read and to be inspired by my writing.  Three times I have suddenly gone from having hundred to hundreds of responses, and this week is apt to hit  a peak I never thought possible.  I would wonder; “What the Heck?”  For there would be minimal visits, and then I caught on; Check footprints! //  I am so computer naieve that I did not know to rate sites other than my own, on which one is apt to be interested in the subject matter, and they certainly will get no porn.

This is a sad commentary though, that in San Francisco, one friend’s daughter married — The San Francisco marriage, or commitment ceremony, and I know this is a very liberal family, but pornography has one place, for the most part, and that is in physician’s offices to check sperm counts where they need samples, or for couple’s therapy where they want a relationship to work, and sex is a sad chore, then often times these couples are able to be helped by sex therapist or even regular physician’s by the use of consenting  couples having sex as something to watch to help these couple attain arousal, so it may not be everyone’s preferred way to seek help, but for some couples, these work.

But I am getting to the fact that we writers of books have so few ways of getting noticed, but our friend’s daughter is making, “Hard Core,” lesbian porn films and making a nice living at it.  There is an armory here which was turned in to a site for making porn, and I believe that it is all porn, and much of it is hard core.  Liberal to me meant that we marched and asked for women to have equal pay for equal work.  It meant that we said that mother’s should be able to nurse their babies wherever they pleased, and that we sought an end to the abuse of women in any and every situation known to us during the days of women’s struggles, and the struggles still carries on.

I could give you a name, though I am told by others that no films come under this person’s name, but hard core women’s porn involves the sexual arousal of women by placing them in dangerous or perceived dangerous situations.  It means little whippings with leathers, sticking objects in to each other’s orifices which should not be there, and I am told by ER physician’s here in San Francisco is going to bring in patients  who have everything from foreign objects stuck in various dangerous areas, even broken bottles, and other examples, the frequent tears, but worst of all either tearings or bleeding from vaginal or anal areas caused by sexual exploits.  Let us not forget the choking incidences where people have hung their own partners — So ladies and gentlemen, this is among the subjects of hard core porn, and this person is making money.  They have had two children with the help and cost control by other lesbian women who were physicians and who helped with the procedures, but our friends make humor out of their daughter’s life style. 

We apparently have become a society which is tragically not interested in the brutality to women in that lesbian hard core porn sells like hot cakes.  The stated goal of the lesbian film maker was to give the girls what the boys could already get.  I need someone to explain to me how these abuses to men and to women are not a subject of great concern, for if you think your children cannot get hold of this kind of film and these introductions in to the communities of GLBT, you are crazy.

I am older, and I need someone to explain to me why porn which has the potential for sending people to the ER, male or female is considered to be something which has enough social value not to lead to the arrest and conviction of people who produce hard core pornography.  I know these people, and they would march to defeat cigarette abuse.  They would gladly remove the testicles of men who commited child abuse, and yet;  This is all covered under free speech.  One doctor gave as examples, coke bottles stuck in rectal; Please, any orifice it could go in,, be broken with the fantasies of a little pain, and then they are in the ER for help.

Please, I do not want footprints lock up on my sight, and the average Xanga person is not apt to know a family whose lesbian daughter is married to a lesbian film maker who wanted to give, “Hard Core,” for the ladies.  Worse, good people have convinced themselves, for their children were grown up to have no rules, that this is all good humor and not bothering anyone.

I do not want Footprints Lock, and I knew something weird was going on with Xanga.  I have been disturbed ever since all of the new changes have come in to place, for I see the numbers, but that my sight is being read seems harder to determine.  My own experience with Footprints Lock, I thought, was just because they were working on our site, and I will endeavor to give you a higher rating.  I can see, that if people are afraid of being attacked by people whom they feel are unscrupulous, that we need a hard and fast way to delete, and were I Xanga, I would probably have a system as such younger people would have to get parental help to get in to Xanga or any other site where pornography was a problem.

I have never had a problem with Xanga and porn, and sadly with my healthcare background;  I do know what hard core is.  I look at my friends, their daughter and her mate, and I think to myself that such people should beg women’s forgiveness, for women do not need any other way across the face of the planet to know abuse.  So I understand fear of what is out there, because I know it exist.  Xanga has generally been a happy, wholesome, even literary place to come, and I will confess that when I see Footprints Lock, then I am a little intimidated, so I do agree with you that if what you are experiencing is going on all over Xanga, then a sea change needs to be made immediately, but do know from me that I have had to disengage the lock more than once, and I thank you for your letter, because I did not know things had become this desparate.  Thanks for the information.

Barb